I am just going to be honest with you from the jump. I am so pissed off with nagging friends who put you down for trying something new that they don’t understand. Why do people always slam you about going raw if they truly don’t understand the lifestyle?
Let me ask you a question and I want your honest opinion on this so PLEASE DON’T HOLD BACK! I have a lady friend who I will not put on blast by saying her name but she knows who she is trust me.
It seems that every time I talk in excitement about going raw she finds something negative to say. Now don’t get me wrong she is extremely intelligent and I do value her opinions but damn she can be so opinionated when it comes to the raw food diet.
I don’t know if it is because she has a genius IQ and I am serious she really does. But lately when I talk about my new lifestyle and kicking meat to the side and lifting weights I am slammed with negative remarks.
I am getting back into body building which is a true passion of mine and she will ask questions concerning protein. I tried to explain to her that I can still get my protein from nuts, soy and raw protein shakes etc.. But she punked me out and went Dr. Phil on me!
Dang what was I going to do with trying have an argument about health with a medically trained woman with a slight temper?
She hit me with medical text book terminology of reasons why I need animal protein for muscle building. Then she made me feel small as Adam Ant when I was not able to give her my usual snappy come back answers.
You see this raw food lifestyle is new to me still. I feeling like the Karate Kid still at the wax on wax off stage of my training looking at my master for directions.
I am learning so much from the RAW FOOD DIET BLUEPRINT but still learning how to master the the art of Raw Food finding my chi.
My question to you guys today is how do you handle negative energy from peo0ple you care about? I have to be honest that even at being 60% raw I am feeling like a new man.
Now I am getting ready to kick off my 100% go at this I am feeling Resistance from my circle of support.
I am not going to allow negative influence to break me but damn I feel bad. How do you deal with people you care about who don’t understand that this raw food lifestyle saves life’s?
Then try to explain that this is how us humans really should eat? I just don’t think most people understand that processed foods ARE FREAKING KILLING US!!
Food is our lifeline I get that part already! But when you change the way you think and others don’t think the same way you do why do they always attack you?
I have been fat for a minute but I am done with living that way. I am not going to stuff my new eating habits down someones throat. So why do people always got to trip with what you eat and how you live your life?
Even at work when you say no thanks when offered donuts, cakes, cookies and more junk people still try to convince you it is OK to have a little. They try to trick you and seduce you with food knowing your still weak, what is up with that?
If you have a friend with a alcohol addiction would you say hey it is OK to have a little beer or wine? Then why in the hell do folks always push us toward failure when we try desperately to fight food addictions?
I just want to know how do you battle with negative folks you care about? Do you hear me people? I am waiting for your thoughts on this one. 
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Man, that’s a tough one. I make myself scarce, like try not to cross paths with those folks, even family. Until you get to where you need to be, you don’t need the negative chatter. When you avoid them, they seem to figure it out or just give ‘em the “gas face”.
Thanks Mike! It is very difficult dealing with the ones you care about but I am trying my best.
LOL @ “gas face”
I can relate with you on that one. When it comes to people you just have to keep focused on what you are trying to do. It is obvious you care about your friends but caring about yourself is priceless.
I hear you brother! It is difficult to deal with people like that sometimes. Some of them mean well, but uknowingly they plant seeds of doubt and failure in the mind. As the brother above said, try to avoid such people (still being their friend). Motivate: Reassure yourself that you are doing something good for yourself by reading and watching videos of other persons who are on that journey and believe me it boosts you up (all of them seem happier). Go Raw Now Trailer on youtube is fantastic a must see. (No meat in those muscles). People are healed of diseases, colon cancers, liver problems and a whole host of things; I have tried eating unhealthy for a long time and it is killing me, so; I am willing to try it to save my own life and that is what you have to concentrate on. Negative comments will come from people you love; but in your mind dismiss their comments. Someday they will see the results of your persistence and determination. Hey! I am going 99% Percent raw from today. The 1% is some baked beans lol. PROVE THEM SO WRONG!
@ Cherylann – Thank you so much for hearing me. I did not want to offend the ones I love and care about but I had that on my chest at the time.
It is hard when your on an Island by yourself and all you have to talk to is a ball named Spalding who understands you. Now I know how Tom Hanks feels.
Thanks Janet I am trying my best!
If something is working for you then I would ignore what other people say, I know its hard but you have to bite your tongue sometimes. I dare say she’s just trying to put you in the right direction but your going another way, try this imagine her as a small blue person and make it real in your mind she everything hear everything make it as real as possible.
It may be hard not to laugh when you see her again but will stop the megative associatons when you might want to start a argument.
If something is working for you then I would ignore what other people say, I know its hard but you have to bite your tongue sometimes. I dare say she\’s just trying to put you in the right direction but your going another way, try this imagine her as a small blue person and make it real in your mind she everything hear everything make it as real as possible.
It may be hard not to laugh when you see her again but will stop the megative associatons when you might want to start a argument.
Point taken Mark thanks. LOL @ “Blue Person”.
When one is improving ones lifestyle by diet and/or exercise there are two types of people around you: supporters and non supporters. While the definition is simple, how people portray support or non support can be very subtle.
Firstly, the fact is, the non supporters will out number supporters by 20:1 , I am afraid.
It is irrelevant what your relationship is to people. Your supporters may be acquaintances only. Non supporters might be close family members.
It might not be obvious who a supporter is or who a non supporter is as it can be subtle(agreed some are not subtle and this is not hard to define who they are.)
Examples: A supporter might be a work colleague. The fact they never say anything might be support. The one that say “Oh your are eating that. I thought you were dieting?” is likely a non supporter. Some people know it is better not to comment.
Yes Breen I have to agree with that for sure. I guess what is so hard to deal with emotionally is that support usually indeed comes from acquaintances more than your close friends and family. I wish it was not so difficult to adjust to this fact of life but it is what it is right? So I have to just turn to my own logic and trust in-self motivation and press on. Sucks but that is what I am just going to do now.
When people say negative things my idea is to answer AS IF they said something nice anyway. “Thank you for sharing” is all you need to say, and then drop it! Not arguing with them prevents the discussion from going any further and shuts them up right away
Thanks Laurie for the wonderful advice! This is why you’re my favorite diet coach online. You always know how the handle the tough questions..